Skew: Relationships

Book 5: The External Worship | Chapter 5.4 | 29 April 2021

When chatting about relationships, people generally think of romantic partnerships. This makes sense because a direct human-to-human love-meets-sexual connection vibrates higher than almost everything known to our species, and for many, is an essential cog to generate happiness. However, the Relationship Skew itself is more general and includes contacts from every walk of life, such as friends, colleagues, family members, pets, housemates, local shop owners, and everyone else.

In a plethora of ways, relationships can be the trickiest Skew because it relies on external minds to play ball, unlike the independent nature of the other Skews. That said, you do have a ton of influence on keeping this aspect running at high energy, and we'll cover the most obvious now.

Looking at monogamous relationships, some of us seek to find love, others hope to hold onto it, and others wish to rekindle what they had before. The advantage of this type of companionship is that you've only got to match it up once, and if you manage to maintain it, this Skew can buzz strong with a little bit of weekly effort on your side. Of course, catching it first is often the complex part because there is no supermarket to buy it nor practice guaranteed to manifest it.

A one-size-fits-all solution does not exist, but the good news is that we're operating in an age with a multitude of avenues to investigate. Consider online dating platforms, meet-ups catering to specific interests, and social venues bursting with opportunities. There is no shortage of outlets where humans can gauge their compatibility. As with everything Janthopoyism, the name of the game is to explore and experiment with whatever comes up, noting what blesses you with a positive feeling and prioritising it accordingly.

This book is not about finding your soulmate. There are plenty of publications dealing with that topic if you need one. But please understand that the more closely you follow your True Path, the more extraordinary the energy you will exude. And the larger the amount of people you can encounter as you radiate this potent electricity, the higher your chances will be of meeting the right individual. Meanwhile, don't wait in impatience! Just have a blast living your life. The tuned eyes will see your flag, and they'll want to go for a ride.

Developing profound feelings for a person has the uncanny ability to explode your insides into the stratosphere. Still, it's unrealistic to expect your brain to sustain such an abundance of happy sauce. At some point you will drift down to reality and the relationship will require an additional push. Now it's time to shift your perspective and enjoy the challenge! This natural progression of bonding can offer even deeper enjoyment, as it is rooted in more reliable emotions.

Many people realise they repeat patterns in relationships, forever unable to sustain a secure companionship. This might not be the fault of your relationship or partner, but perhaps a loop of your creation. Rest assured that every human connection has the potential to last a lifetime. That person you fell in love with is still there, and you can revitalise them. Do not demand they behave in any manner on account of you. Do not complain about their faults otherwise those faults will grow. Instead, treat them as if they are the person you already want them to be. Focus exclusively on the qualities that you admire, and those will shine through. Compliment the parts you value and watch as those flourish, burying the negative. Praise them or buy them a gift even if they don't deserve it because they will transform into someone who does deserve it. These techniques will work with anyone.

As with everything, relationships are a section of your worship. But since they involve another personality, they are extraordinarily unique and therefore require careful methods of sustenance. Approach your partner like the deity they are, and a union of divinity shall develop between you.

On that note, it would be irresponsible for us not to recognise that certain relationships become toxic. Sometimes two minds create a rapport of conditional responses so damaged that the dark energy engulfs the positives. If you're constantly miserable and are no longer evolving as a unit or a person, then seize back control and leave. If you know this is the correct road to take, then be bold and take it! The only thing worse than being alone is missing your soulmate walk past because you were stuck staring at a person who doesn't appreciate you, so follow your happiness outta there. Your True Path depends on it! But if you've covered this familiar story many times, contemplate what will stop it from swinging around again.

For those suffering from heartbreak, this Skew will be shot down as your Weakest Link for a while. This difficulty also applies to the death of someone close to you. By all means, lick your wounds the best you can, but you will not be able to fix this just yet. Grant the Skew space to breathe and assist the surrounding Skews until you are strong enough to tackle this issue properly.

Shameless plug incoming! Janthopoyism's founder, Jared Woods, authored a book called Heartbreak Sucks! How to Get Over Your Breakup in 30 Days. If this sounds like something that can help you, we are glad we mentioned it. If not, we are very sorry for bringing it up, and it will never happen again.

Your love life is a crucial component, but this Skew can also soar without such romantic relations by using the practically infinite number of humans at your disposal. In the same manner, you can trade your attention for the attention of others and strengthen the ties of social interaction between yourself and anyone. Sometimes it's better to concentrate less on seeking a partner and more on finding a place in your life for everyone. A connection with anyone is always possible on some level. Meet up with a best friend, exercise a former camaraderie, throw a party, target an acquaintance to upgrade, strike up a chat with a stranger, or (perhaps the most powerful) make peace with an affinity once lost. Even playing with an animal (doggos in particular) can warm the correct internal spot. If you're waiting for your prince/princess to arrive or are in the process of fixing a lover misalignment, any of the above suggestions could be enough to grant your .5. And when the engines are whirring, you'll steer the romance more easily.

Luckily for you, the Janthopoyism scripture is loaded with philosophies and processes for dealing with human relationships, so go back and read those. We recommend the first three parts of Book 4, namely:

4.1. Knowing When to Shut the Hell Up
4.2. Knowing When to Let It All Out
4.3. How to Deal with Other Human Beings

To conclude, the most beneficial method to serve the Universe's evolution in the Relationship Skew is to converse with as many new people as possible. Every single mind on this planet has the capability to shift your brain train, and as you've already experienced, certain people will completely redesign the tracks. Even if it feels a touch uncomfortable, give your life a statistical advantage and perpetually lookout for opportunities to exchange energy with whomever you can. On any given day, you could have the conversation which produces something monumental, potentially on a globally influential scale. You never know who that matching person might be, so best try everyone.

But heed a word of caution! Pick your regular company very wisely. Patterns of thought are contagious, and consistently bleak auras will invite all sorts of horrid stuff inside. People regularly hanging out gradually build a shared version of reality. If a human’s mindset doesn’t feel right, it’s not right, so skip on to the next personality. There’s always a next one. There are billions of them.

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